Well last night - instead of just enjoying my night out with my boyfriend Sandy, I was diarrhea of the mouth and couldn't shut my pie whole. All I did was talk about real estate investing and as I was "chatting" with Sandy I realized that I was starting to get this feeling of desperation. But before I could "slow my roll" it was out of control. I just kept pushing the issue of wanting him to learn about the creative financing aspect of investing so that we can be partners in this business and for the 100th time he was letting me know that he really is not interested in crawling into this world with me. He has not the desire to learn all this real estate investing like I do. But he also thinks its unnecessary to "have to learn" anything about the "creative financing" aspect because "what's to learn? numbers are numbers". He thinks that he doesn't need to know how we are structuring the deal or what our exit strategy should be in order to evaluate whether it's a good deal. I beg to differ in a BIG WAY. He speaks just like someone who has no idea about this investor world that I run in. He's an outsider that kind of looks at all of us as a bunch of overzealous folks who spend to much time learning all this stuff when you basically just need to find a house, look at the numbers and buy it.
Ahhh... if it were that easy - everybody would be a real estate millionaire.... it is true what they say though... ignorance is bliss. Because the fact is, is that it is those poor folks out there who think they don't need to learn anything about real estate investing and the just jump right into it and those are the poor little puppies that I see whining and complaining about not having good deals or worse - not having ANY DEALS - or WORSE WORSE, having good deals to begin with but they have totally screwed the whole thing up and the deal is now sucking the life right out of them and souring them against real estate investing in whole!
Schmucks - all of them people who think they got nothing to learn. Well except for my beloved Sandy. He's no schmuck - actually he's quite brilliant.... Because, who's smarter than a man who has found himself a driven and ambitious woman who will not stop until I am a millionaire investor, and who also, cooks like a chef, cleans the house, goes to work everyday, and is always focused on improving myself and being the best person I can be everyday. God is watching after all...
So who's the schmuck? No - It isn't my beloved Sandy....
As a result, I have resigned myself to the fact that he might never want to be involved with any of my businesses and I have to just accept that. Ideally I would like to have my business partner in real estate to be actual partner in life, but I guess I can live without it. There are plenty of investors out there who's spouses are not involved in the business. I just didn't think I would be one of them. It's just that I know that I simply must have a partner because it is just too much for me to do on my own since I also have a full time job running the club. I want to keep it in the family since it will be that much easier to manage...
Maybe he'll change his mind if I just back off.... I'll try this for a while....
